A human works off both sides of
their brain.
One the emotional, the other the realistic.
Well, humans test all theories, and if a
pattern holds true,
we seem to script it on the halls of
knowledge just for you.
The right side, laws of emotion, the left
realistic views,
this does not mean your choices are limited
and few.
Because halls are traveled both ways, and
right becomes the left,
it's which way you are facing when decisions
must be met.
So instead and going back and forth and never
going anywhere,
there seems to be a simple way to eliminate
remorse,
why not just look both ways and travel a
steady course.
We can take emotion and apply a realistic
base,
although the realistic creates children, the
emotional guides them through life, yet the
emotional can create a child, and the
realistic understand their strife.
Emotions can guide truth and intellect, and
see a future too,
realism must take it's place if it's ever to
come true.
So instead of searching all your life,
walking in a circle,
Stop and look both ways
Life's a Matter of Reversal.
I have worked with many Countries
and all Countries are different when it comes
to regulations on adoption.
Here are the cold hard facts.
There are countries who allow the adoption
to finalize without you being there.
There are countries who require one or two
visits to the country to finalize the
adoption.
There are countries who have orphanages and
some who use foster homes and some who have
the child live with the birth parent until
the adoption is final.
There is a wide range of fees involved which
we will cover.
There are countries that allow the family to
choose the age, health?, even down to the
skin tone?.
There are countries that give you no choice
of anything other than newborn and you get
what is next in line.
Most countries have legitimate adoptions and
not so legal adoptions. The American agencies
know the laws of the particular country and
choose to go with attorneys who will process
adoptions for an exorbitant fee.
Some countries use extortion even if the
adoption is legal. Countries like Peru, who
if you are lucky will get out of the country
alive and with the child and with enough
money to get back home.
Then there are countries and agencies who
move children into the U.S. without the
experience to do a proper adoption. Rumania
is an example where children were being
adopted in exchange for cigarettes and
VCR’s at the airport. Most children were
HIV infected and out of the entire movement
before the Government of Rumania stepped in
were abandoned by the adoptive families here
in America. Not only did our Government have
an enormous burden and price to pay, but
these children died in institutions and the
family was literally destroyed. Not to
mention Broke.
It is a mucky field of land mines
to adopt here in the United States, but to
venture to third world countries is even more
dangerous unless you have a legitimate agency
and are dealing with a country who has
adoption laws and the courts in that country
monitor the process, cost and health of the
child.
How do you know then who is
legitimate and what guarantees you can count
on.
First: Go to an agency
who has a state license.
Second: Look at all the
paperwork explained in our adoption
information pages.
Third: make sure the
agency has qualified representatives with the
country you will be going through. Call the
Department of Immigration and get a list of
regulations for adoption from that country.
Fourth: Get a list of
families who have adopted from this agency
and from the country you are going through
and call them. No better way to find the
reality of the situation than to talk to
someone who has gone through it.
Fifth: Look at the travel
requirements. Some countries require you to
take residency for as much as two to four
weeks and come back to finalize the adoption.
Can you afford to be away that long?
Sixth: Make sure the
agency supplies you with pictures of the
child and medical history of birth parent(s)
and child. If they do not have the
information, go with someone else.
I can not stress enough your need
to be aggressive in finding out everything
you can about the adoption process.
And have a qualified attorney trained in
adoption law. If you are going out of the
country the lawyer should be able to work
with that country and even speak their
language. The lawyer should have no
connections with an agency and have a record
of international adoptions he/she has
completed, along with the results.
COST:
An international adoption can run anywhere
from $5,000.00 (good luck finding one) to
$30,000.00 and up.
The average adoption of a healthy infant from
a qualified country is about $15,000.00 to
20,000.00. And there are countries that allow
the adoption to be finalized without you
leaving the U.S. and a representative of the
agency can bring the child to you.
To Be Continued
