Special
Needs:
OH WHAT A RIDE: BY
JOE MAZZAFRO
THE FIRST VISIT
NO TESTING
QUESTIONS ARE USUALLY GENERAL IN NATURE
REVIEW OF ENVIRONMENT SUCH AS LAYOUT OF THE
HOUSE,
THE NEIGHBORHOOD ARE LOOKED AT AS NOT
PERMANENT,
SO NOT MUCH EMPHASIS ON THE CHILD'S PART IS
EXHIBITED.
THE SECOND VISIT
MANY QUESTIONS REGARDING
HOW THE FOSTER FAMILY DOES THINGS,
WITH MANY REFERENCES ON PAST RELATIONSHIPS.
MOST CHILDREN WANT THE
ADOPTIVE FAMILY
TO SET SOME SMALL GUIDELINES SO THE CHILD CAN
TRY AND MANIPULATE THEM.THIS HELPS THEM TO
GET A FEEL FOR WHOM THEY ARE WORKING WITH.
THE MOVE IN
EITHER A VERY TALKATIVE CHILD OR A
VERY SILENT CHILD.
THE TALKATIVE CHILD IS VERY
NERVOUS
AND THE TALKING IS ON SCATTERED SUBJECTS
AS THEY BEGIN TO SET THE BARRICADES FOR THE
UPCOMING BATTLE.
THE QUIET CHILD WILL
RETREAT TO A BEDROOM OR A
PLACE WHERE THEY CAN MARK THEIR TERRITORY.
FOOD WILL BE AN ISSUE,
EITHER EATEN IN MODERATION OR THERE WILL BE
NO END
TO THE AMOUNT THE CHILD WILL CONSUME.
MOST CHILDREN NO MATTER HOW
MUCH YOU GIVE THEM
WILL STEAL FOOD, WILL HIDE FOOD, NO MATTER
HOW
WELL FED THEY ARE OR EVER WERE FED IN THE
PAST.
THE "I WANT OR
CAN I HAVE STAGE" FOLLOWS.
THEY HAVE LEARNED LOVE IS IN WHAT
YOU GET SO
"GIVE ME" IS THE FIRST REAL FORM OF
TESTING.
WHAT YOU GIVE, THEY WILL DESTROY!
BEDWETTING, TEARING OF
CLOTHES, TEARING BOOKS,
SHREDDING PAPER ARE ALL NATURAL.
STEALING AND LYING ARE THE
NEXT PHASE OF THE "HOW AM I DOING TO GET
THROWN OUT OF HERE STAGE"
I LOVE YOU!
NOW THROW ME OUT........
GO FIGURE........
TESTING THE INTERNAL FAMILY IS LOTS
OF FUN,
ONE AGAINST THE OTHER. FEED MY NEEDS.
I NEED TO BE A
VICTIM.
HELP ME BE A VICTIM.
"NO, I WILL NOT HELP AND WILL NOT BE A
VICTIM FOR YOU"
BOUTS OF NOT EATING
IS COMMON.
THROWING AWAY LUNCH AT SCHOOL,
LEAVING DINNER,
PASSING ON BREAKFAST....
LET IT GO!!!!
BEHAVIOR AT SCHOOL
IS A MUST..
WHAT BETTER WAY TO STAY NON
COMMITTED
AND KEEP THE LIGHT ON THEMSELVES.
FIGHTING WITH PEER GROUPS ALWAYS ADDS A
LITTLE
SPICE TO THE DINNER CONVERSATION...
SMILE WE ARE HALF WAY THERE.
"DO YOU LOVE
ME STILL"???????????????????????
LET'S BREAK SOMETHING YOU LIKE,
AM I MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOUR GREAT
GRANDMOTHERS VASE, VALUED AT $550.00??????
BY THE WAY, YOUR GREAT
GRANDMOTHER HAS BEEN DEAD
FOR TEN YEARS AND THAT WAS ALL YOU HAD TO
REMEMBER HER BY....
MY STOMACH HURTS, I
HAVE A HEADACHE, I THINK I BROKE MY FINGER, I
AM ALWAYS TIRED......
WHAT IS REAL AND WHAT IS
ATTENTION SEEKING BEHAVIOR?
CAN I IGNORE THIS AND BE A GOOD PARENT?
WHAT IF THEY REALLY ARE SICK?
BOY THEY GOT YOU THERE...................
SUSPENSION!! OH
NO!!
WHO IS WRONG,
MY LITTLE DARLING OR THE TEACHER?
SOME TEACHERS ARE LOUSY WITH
CHILDREN WITH PROBLEMS.
WHAT'S REAL AND
WHAT'S NOT...
IS THIS THE TWILIGHT ZONE?
DON'T ADJUST YOUR HOME
THEY CONTROL THE HORIZONTAL
THEY CONTROL THE VERTICAL..
HA HA
WHEN THEY SAY DAD, MOM,
WHO ARE THEY REFERRING TO?
THEY HAVE 20 SIBLINGS FROM 9 HOMES.
WHO'S WHO?
BUY THE GAME CALLED
CLUE
AND PLAY IT A FEW TIMES;
ALSO AVAILABLE ON CASSETTE AND VIDEO TAPE.
SOMETHING MISSING?
NO THE BUTLER DID NOT DO IT!
CATCH UP ON SLANG,
CURSING AND WHAT BRAND OF CIGARETTES ARE OUT
THERE.
DON'T HAVE THE MINISTER TO DINNER
WITHOUT POSTING A SIGN "WE SWEAR AT
DINNER"
EVER HEAR ABOUT SAFE SEX?
DON'T ASK WHO ARE
YOU BRINGING HOME,
ASK WHAT ARE YOU BRINGING HOME,
THAT MAKES IT A LOT EASIER FOR YOU.
GO TO SEE THE
AMAZING KRESKIN.
LEARN HOW TO READ MINDS.
SULK BEFORE THEY
DO,
THAT ALWAYS THROWS THEM OFF GUARD.
HUG AND HUG AND HUG
BUT BE CAREFUL NOT TO MAKE TOTAL
BODY CONTACT,
AS MOST CHILDREN HAVE BEEN ABUSED,
AND THIS ONE WILL BE A BIGGIE!!!!!!!!
IS THE HONEYMOON
OVER YET?
COVER ALL THE BASES
SET UP THE BLEACHERS
GOT ALL THE EQUIPMENT
THEN I'M READY FOR THE BIG GAME.
WELL NOW THEY TELL YOU THE GAME IS TENNIS,
SO WHAT DO I DO WITH THE BAT AND GLOVE?
HERE COMES THE
EXTENDED FAMILY.
BOY, ARE THEY LITTLE ANGELS AROUND
GRANDPA,
HE CAN NOT UNDERSTAND YOUR FRUSTRATION?
WELL THEY DEFUSED YOUR SUPPORT IN THAT ARENA.
LETS PLAY
"MOMMY SAID SO" "DADDY SAID I
COULD". YOU ARE NOT
COMMUNICATING, THAT'S A NO NO.
RUN AWAY'S...
WERE IN THE BIG LEAGUE NOW.
DADDY TOUCHED ME IN
A BAD PLACE?
WHAT'S A PERSON TO DO?
ARE WE HAPPY
CAMPERS
WHAT NO TENT AND YOU SAY IT'S
RAINING CATS AND DOGS, AND YOU WAKE UP AND
ACTUALLY HEAR THE DOG YELPING!!.
YOU ARE NOT MY
PARENT
NOW YOU ARE HEADING DOWN THE HOME
STRETCH.
NO FAMILY IS COMPLETE WITHOUT THE
"SURVIVAL GUIDE TO THE
YOU ARE NOT MY PARENT REMARK"
WE ALL FLY SOLO IN
THE END
BUT THE SKY WITH ALL IT'S FEARS AND DANGERS,
SURE IS BEAUTIFUL WHEN THE SUN SET'S AT
30,000 FEET...
"OH! WHAT A
RIDE".......
ADOPTION IS A BIG ROLLERCOASTER
LONG RIDES UP
FAST RIDES DOWN
UP
DOWN
UP
DOWN
WHAT A GREAT RIDE.
NEVER FOUND ANY USE
IN A ROLLERCOASTER THAT DID
NOT SCARE THE HELL OUT OF ME.
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